RR Phantom
Location : Wasted Space Job/hobbies : Cayman Islands Actuary
| Subject: When your transgender child comes out Tue May 06, 2014 8:56 pm | |
| In most families the pronoun “they” is plural. In our family it’s singular and gender neutral. My husband and I have pronoun crises in which neurons misfire and the cat becomes “they”, our youngest daughter becomes “they” and the children’s granny becomes confused.
This is all because our oldest child is transgender - female to male - and no longer wants to be referred to as “she” or “her”. “He” and “him” won’t do either, only “they” and “them”.
My husband and I try to use it even when our child isn’t around. It helps reinforce the habit, so I will write “they” and “them” instead of “she” and “her”.
It’s been a year-long struggle to retrain our brains. Slips have sparked arguments that degenerated into conflict about how we misgendered them at birth and how dare we.
But we have slowly grown used to it, just like we have adapted as our beautiful daughter has transformed into a good-looking but boyish 16-year-old called Russell.
It was a huge shock when they anxiously handed over a note trying to explain that they no longer felt comfortable being called “she”.
http://www.dailylife.com.au/life-and-love/parenting-and-families/when-your-transgender-child-comes-out-20140502-37ma5.html |
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